I recently found this picture about comedian Mark Anderko (@ComedianMark) whose joke goes along these lines, “So I buy this girl a drink at the bar and you know what she does? She says ‘thanks’ and hands it to her boyfriend…normally that would piss me off but it was fucking hilarious watching him drink that roofie.” OMG! That is soooo funny! Right?! Wrong! This is wrong on so many different levels. There are thousands and thousands of women who haven’t been so “lucky” to pass off their drink and have been sexually assaulted because of the subsequent effects. That’s not something you should be proud of or laugh about and it certainly shouldn’t be the punch line of some joke. I know that many people think feminists don’t have a sense of humor and can’t take a joke, but that’s not true I just don’t think making fun of a very real and serious situation is okay. It might be funny if according to the U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey from 2006-2010 there weren’t 207, 754 cases of rape and sexual assault per year, but there are so therefore jokes like these just don’t make me laugh.
I found this great blog by FeministBorgia as to, “On why rape ‘jokes’ are bad…” but even more than the reasons she gives, you have no idea the experiences of those around you. How much of an asshole would you feel like if you made a dead baby joke and a woman you were around had just had a miscarriage? Why is rape any different? Oh, because it was probably her fault right? She was wearing inappropriate clothing, she was drunk, she shouldn’t have led him on, and all in all as a woman she was probably asking for it. That’s got to be why you think making the joke is okay. No? Then why do it?
From the jokes that “comedians” like Mark Anderko make, to the Rape Sloth Meme, to saying you “raped” that test, none of these are funny to rape victims. It’s not funny to see people make light of a situation from which you still may not have recovered. It’s not funny to make a punch line based on a worldwide epidemic. It’s just not funny. If you read nothing else please take the time to read how one rape victim wished her rapist could feel like and then tell me if you think this is still okay to joke about. http://stfueverything.tumblr.com/post/61649301934/i-want-them-to-be-walking-around-in-a-public#notes
I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments! What are the jokes that have upset you?