Hey ShoutOut readers. It’s the last post of the semester and I find myself looking back on my previous posts. It’s a bit difficult to figure out what to write about now but I shall endeavor to keep you interested.
Today, I want to talk about chivalry.
I am guilty of wanting men to be more chivalrous but a story my friend told me made me rethink my position. Chivalry is nice but in actuality, it’s just the idea of good manners. Some women want men to open the door for them but I think it’s nice when anyone holds the door for you. If someone pays for you, then it’s a kindness that you appreciate. Then there is the whole idea of men carrying the heavier things so that women don’t have to.
In my opinion, chivalry puts women at the same level as children. Women need to be shown care and men need to make sure they’re safe. It does not seem fair. Women also take care of men. I’m sure some of you have heard of the idea that men are just big children and their wives take care of them. On the other hand, having a guy take something out of my hands because “I can’t handle it” is rude and insulting to me. I’ve had friends laugh at me when I insist I can carry my own boxes because of my lesser strength. It’s a matter of pride for me. It’s nice to be helped but it’s one thing to be helped because they can see you’re struggling and want to help. It’s another when they think of you as incapable.
It’s not just men though. Women think the same. My mother, when we were moving, wanted to ask my ex-boyfriend to come help because “he’s strong.” Whenever my roommate and I carried in groceries, we moaned about needing a guy to help. It’s just something that we all think at some point because of the culture we live in. It’s also not just women that are put in the same level as children. My roommate carries around a cane because of joint pain and she said people open the door more often for her now. I’m not sure what to think of this because it’s not her arm that is in pain, but her leg. Did people find her more in need of help because they saw her as handicapped? I cannot really say because I don’t know people’s thoughts.
I’m also not saying that everyone thinks this way. Men open the doors for certain women because they care about them. We, as students at JMU, often open the door for someone behind us because it is the nice thing to do. Chivalry has different meanings behind it now. However, it is important to remember the background behind it. At present, chivalry is indeed dead. We need to think of a better way to categorize it now. Perhaps we should get rid of the word “chivalry” and use “consideration” instead.
And now I come to the end of my post. Thanks for reading and have a great summer!